Nashville’s flawed child support system has to be fixed. I saw eighteen years of age without any “support” but I am one of many. Child support is not what it seems. Supposedly, a parent has until a child turns eighteen before they can stop financing the necessities of a child. If you know anything about this process, you know that this is not the case. Use my story as an example. I am twenty-one years old and my brother is nineteen years old. My biological father has accumulated a child support debt amounting to over $55,000. He has several other children outside of my brother and myself. Recently, he quit his job so his payments would discontinue. However, he continues to make money elsewhere. I won’t even get into how difficult he has been over the years. The only reason my mother started receiving back payments of child support checks, starting at $34 a week for two “kids,” is because he made a payment for the first time in over fifteen years before appearing in court to have a receipt to show the judge. See, trying to pose as something he wasn’t landed him a weekly paycheck deduction! After quitting his job, he drew unemployment. Now, the state is taking checks out of his unemployment but those checks are not making a dent in his accrued sum. Sadly, it is not uncommon for a parent in Tennessee to owe a significant amount in child support. Shouldn’t there be something done about this flawed system? When will men be held just as accountable for their actions as women?
I hear a lot of debates about abortion from pro-choice and pro-life supporters but neither side has brought up the issue of child support debts. There are men and women straying from the responsibility of raising a child without any consequences. Before attacking women for having abortions, make sure you hold men accountable. We are continuously insulting women for making the best decisions in certain circumstances. I never hear solutions from either side, only opinions. Pro-life advocates choose to tie religion to abortion but there are not any scriptures speaking against abortion. Being the Christian that I am, I know the Bible speaks about murder in the sense of unjustly killings such as fratricide. In regards to the one scripture in Amos mentioning the life of an infant in the womb, God speaks about the value of a child. He talks about what should happen to anyone that strikes the stomach of a pregnant women to point out how people should view the developing embryo as something of value, enough to nurture and develop into existence. Nowhere in that scripture did he say a woman has to carry the child or choose the child’s life over her own. The fact that he indicates how noticeably developed the pregnant woman is implies that she would have been too far along to abort anyway. Sounds familiar? So Christians, please stop twisting the Bible scriptures to benefit your own beliefs. You can’t pick parts of a scripture to interpret without looking at it in its entirety.
Pro-choice advocates quit only talking about terminal illnesses and rape scenarios because there are many other aspects to consider. Is it too hard to accept that some people are just not meant to be parents? I’m sure we all know someone who is a constant reminder of why some women should not be parents! I am surprised at both sides.
Both sides have failed to offer a solution. I believe absentee fathers should be made to have vasectomies, especially when they are thousands of dollars behind in child support. Again, when will men be held accountable for their actions? No man or woman should be allowed to continue to have children when they are not providing for the ones they already have. To the Christians who speak so passionately about pro-life, the Bible has many scriptures on a man that doesn’t work or provide for his family should not be able to enjoy the fruits of labor. It says he should not eat or sleep because he has failed at performing the duties of a man. How can you bash a woman for thinking so responsibly about her circumstances? I hope you realize abortion is a hard decision to make. From a psychological and health standpoint, abortions have long term effects on the women who have them. Truthfully, there are way more women with legit reasons for having abortions than there are women getting abortions just to get them. Quit assuming all women who have them are trying to get rid of a “life” rather than a “circumstance before it is considered a life.” I won’t get into scientific specifics about cells and how they evolve because I am sure that would lead to another discussion. What I will say is focus on the things that matter. Offer solutions before judging. If you want to stop abortions from occurring, make some of these absentee fathers have vasectomies and absentee mothers get tubal ligations. Then, we won’t have to have this debate as often as we do. There’s no reason a man or woman should be able to legally stray away from their responsibilities for as long as my biological father has and still be able to have children. It’s unfair that responsible parents have to go through financial changes such as child expenses, court costs and lawyer fees in order to make irresponsible parents pay up. Nashville is too populous to be this unsupportive toward the children and responsible parents.
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